Is Your Tech Use Affecting Your Relationship With Your Kids?
If you're on your smartphone, tablet or computer all the time, your use of the devices may be causing your children to feel internal tension, a new study says.
We’ll move on to a new study that reveals interesting insights that could have every parent looking at their phones in a new way. It's about how your engagement with your phone affects your relationship with your kids. And joining us now is Dr. Janet Taylor psychiatrist and Ericka Souter, the editor of Mom.me. And Janet, just begin by laying out what the study found.
So the study looked and talked to 35 parents and care givers, and found that even though the promise and potential of mobile technology is to make our lives easier, in fact, they felt more stressed. They felt more pressure to be connected at home while trying to connect at work. And “Am I good a employer?” “Am I a good parent”? They felt like they may be more distracted at times from their children and also they felt stressed. But it wasn't all bad news, because the fact that they felt stress meant it's an opportunity for all parents to understand why they feel stress and more importantly what they can do about it.
To look at the problems right there but it also revealed this is kind of surprising, some upsides.
Right, the upsides were that those phones provide an escape from boredom. And that also makes you feel connected to the real world, which is very important when you've been taking care of kids all day. And there’s actually another benefit that moms had told me about, it’s that the fact that they're focusing on something else can help their kids develop much needed patience.
Right. Say I'll be with you in just a minute instead of right now.
Exactly.
But you talked about the stress, Janet and the study also gets into this whole idea of trickle down stress. Explain that.
We're humans and as parents, we do the best that we can. But there are times you may read something on your phone which may upset you or make you depressed and it's important that you stop and create that space…
I've had to catch myself with that.
Right? You stop and you catch that moment and understand that it's really important that we have face-to-face time and that face-to-face time is hard to get and it's positive. And parents in the study reported that they did snap. So it's an opportunity to either create some rules about how you compose yourself and certainly as a family, set your time in terms of how you're going to not interact with technology.
It’s quite hard to not bring those work problems home.
Right, ‘coz it's reality. But to be aware of that and also to engage in a positive way because our children are always watching.
So what tips do you have for parents? And how to make this constructive relationship with your phone and your kids?
Well, it's hard to cut the cord literally, but now there are apps that will help you use your phone in a more healthy way and these apps will help you monitor how much time you're spending on your phone, but not only that. What you're spending time on and they're called Screentime Moment and Quality. And they're really fabulous tools that every parent should have on their phone.
Okay. Thank you, Ericka souter, Janet Taylor, thank you both for coming in.
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A new study that reveals interesting insight that could could have every parent looking at their phones in a new way. It's about how your engagement with your phone affects your relationship with your kids. And joining us now is Dr. Janet Taylor psychiatrist and Ericka Souter, the editor of Mom.me. And Janet, just begin by laying out what the study found.
So the study looked and talked to 35 parents and care givers, and found that even though the promise and potential of mobile technology is to make our lives easier, in fact, they felt more stressed. They felt more pressure to be connected at home while trying to connect at work. And “Am I good a employer?” “Am I a good parent”? They felt like they may be more distracted at times from their children and also they felt stressed. But it wasn't all bad news, because the fact that they felt stress meant it's an opportunity for all parents to understand why they feel stress and more importantly what they can do about it.
To look at the problems right there but it also revealed this is kind of surprising, some upsides.
Right, the upsides were that those phones provide an escape from boredom. And that also makes you feel connected to the real world, which is very important when you've been taking care of kids all day. And there’s actually another benefit that moms had told me about, it’s that the fact that they're focusing on something else can help their kids develop much needed patience.
Right. Say I'll be with you in just a minute instead of right now.
Exactly.
But you talked about the stress, Janet and the study also gets into this whole idea of trickle down stress. Explain that.
We're humans and as parents, we do the best that we can. But there are times you may read something on your phone which may upset you or make you depressed and it's important that you stop and create that space…
I've had to catch myself with that.
Right? You stop and you catch that moment and understand that it's really important that we have face-to-face time and that face-to-face time is hard to get and it's positive. And parents in the study reported that they did snap. So it's an opportunity to either create some rules about how you compose yourself and certainly as a family, set your time in terms of how you're going to not interact with technology.
It’s quite hard to not bring those work problems home.
Right, ‘coz it's reality. But to be aware of that and also to engage in a positive way because our children are always watching.
So what tips do you have for parents? And how to make this constructive relationship with your phone and your kids?
Well, it's hard to cut the cord literally, but now there are apps that will help you use your phone in a more healthy way and these apps will help you monitor how much time you're spending on your phone, but not only that. What you're spending time on and they're called Screentime Moment and Quality. And they're really fabulous tools that every parent should have on their phone.
Okay. Thank you, Ericka souter, Janet Taylor, thank you both for coming in.
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